The Perfect Father’s Day Gift…
by aviva
I don’t know about you, but I find guys to be very hard to shop for. The first year I was married, I took my husband to Home Depot for his birthday and let him pick out a cordless drill; that was the only thing I knew he wanted, but there was no way I’d be able to find the right one myself. I can always get him a new tie or cufflinks, but there’s a limit on how many of those he actually needs, since he only wears them once a week (unlike my tichels, for example!).
I like to be practical with gifts – I’m not going to get him a framed copy of some sappy ode-to-daddies poem, or a meat branding iron with his initials (just in case he gets his hamburgers mixed up with the neighbor’s?). He doesn’t have any obvious hobbies like golf or Dungeons and Dragons or Civil War re-enacting. He already has a bowling ball. Our diaper bag is already gender-neutral, so he doesn’t feel like an idiot carrying it. I got him a new wallet for his birthday, and a Swiss army knife for Chanukah. What more is there?
As of now, my plan is to get a babysitter and take him bowling. Maybe I’ll squelch my inner Yankees fan and get a cute Phillies outfit for the baby, to honor his affiliations over mine. Perhaps some steak for dinner?
In the attempt to get some perspective, I looked up the origins of Fathers’ Day. According to history.com, it has been celebrated in the U.S. since around 1910, although it did not become an official holiday with a set date until 1972. Shortly after Mother’s Day started to be celebrated, a woman named Sonora Smart Dodd came up with Father’s Day. Her father was a Civil War veteran who had raised her and her siblings after their mother died. It actually started out as a religious event, and people would wear a red rose in honor of a living father, or a white one in honor of a deceased father.
Ok, that didn’t really help with gift ideas. I hope you all are doing better than I am.
JUST ADDED!

Jewish Women International, a non-profit, is running a campaign where you can donate money to support their healthy relationships program that teaches boys about power, masculinity, respect, etc., through a Jewish lens. When you donate money, you can send an ecard to your father, husband, ect. letting him know that he inspired you to support that cause. It’s a different idea than things I’ve seen before. And if you’re going to throw away money on a gift he won’t enjoy, why not give tzedakah (charity) instead?
I find that shopping for my father is easy – he doesn’t actually want anything other than a nice, relaxing day with the family! His birthday is the week before Father’s Day, so we usually roll them into one and have a full day of cooking together, playing games, and watching tv. I think for all of us the time spent together is worth more than any physical gift. That said, my sister and I did go in together to get dad a gift card so he can get a new grill. Sometimes new toys are a good thing, too.
We are in STL. I was shopping for a baby gift today and came across a Cardinals Tshirt in Hebrew. Practical, something he will like, and unique. I just got lucky this year, i am always stressing over gifts for him
My dad would consider the perfect father’s day gift to be a book. It’s what I’ve gotten him every year for the last twenty years.
I’ve given up on ideas. My husband insists he doesn’t want a gift and he’s difficult to shop for (the same as above, no obvious or easy to buy for hobbies). I ordered him a card with the kids’ pictures and we’ll take him out to dinner. I’ll probably try to let him sleep in (he lets me sleep in on the weekend usually). That’s it for us, though.
And I had no idea about the colored roses. I’ve never heard that before, but I love random info like that. Thanks.
i didnt know about the flowers. i thought that was just something done for mothers day!
I have the hardest time thinking of things for my Dad, mainly because whatever I get him has to be homemade, an what am I supposed to make him that would be useful?
the only thing my dad does is watch news channels! he dosent have hobbies either! lol
The photo reminded me of my wonderful step-dad, who always wore a cowboy hat (unless he was in the kitchen wearing his chef’s uniform, in which case he sported a toque).
Probably won’t be giving my husband anything on Sunday…
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… a white rose in honor of my Dad, obm.
My dad might like a new hat for fathers day.
Otherwise razors and candy are great for dad.
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Glad to know that I am not the only one who has trouble figuring out the perfect gift. Thanks!
I have a really hard time shopping for my dad too. He is a real beer fan, so I usually get him some exotic beers and cook him his favorite vegetarian dishes. Hope everyone finds the perfect gift for their dad’s.
This year it was easy. My father has been on a super health kick so I got Norene’s healthy kitchen for my mother. It makes life easy for my mom. and he’s really happy as well. Happy father’s day TA!
Shopping for men is hard!
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we don’t do gifts for fathers day – just try to make it a little special with nice words
It is soooooo hard to shop for my husband! My dad is easier, and so are my sons.
We sent funny cards to my father in-law and grandfather. My father gets upset if we spend money on him for something so silly. He always taught us that father’s/mother’s day is everyday!!!
A themed food basket makes a great gift for Father’s Day! After all “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach!”
love the new FB store! pretty cool!
I have no idea what to get my dad. What do you get for the man who wants nothing and gets everything he needs? My husband will get a book either historical or a mystery.
I bought my dad a pair of jeans.
I tweeted also! @swtthing3 on Twitter……
My dad is the hardest person in the world to shop for! This year he’s been doing some cross stitching which helps his hands stay nimble, so i got him some cross stitching supplies – i hope he likes it!
Actually, tzedakah is a great idea. It’s nice to do for any holiday.
For me the perfect gift is to be with your father. Wish mine was here. I lost him when I was 16. He’s been gone outta my life longer than in it. I miss you, Daddy!
The perfect gift is to have your father here that has been long passed.
I find it hard to shop for my hubby.
He says he doesn’t want anything,and of course the man has everything.
It’s hard to top the gift I gave him 24 years ago. On father’s day 24 years ago I gave him a 6 lb 12 ounce baby girl.
Definitely powertools!!!! (or, a new watch!)
I rack my brains, too, trying to figure out what to get my husband. I knew he wanted a certain book, so I told him I would buy it for him. I also bought him a watch (his bday is just a few weeks away). He kept turning down a watch, but once I showed him a picture of one, he acquiessed.
Ho about tickets to a baseball game?
A nice card an dinner together.
While my dad is no longer with us, my husband and father loves to get homemade gifts from my kids.
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Bake him Papa’s Revenges.